By Micha Shalev
Why do people who have dementia become agitated?
The agitation can have many causes. A sudden change in surroundings or frustrating situations can cause people who have dementia to become agitated. For example, getting dressed or giving the wrong answer to a question may cause frustration. Being challenged about the confusion or inability to do things caused by the dementia may also make the person agitated. As a result, the person may cry, become irritable, or try to hurt others in some way.
How can I deal with agitation?
One of the most important things you can do is avoid situations in which your loved one might become frustrated. Try to make your loved one’s tasks less difficult. For example, instead of expecting him or her to get dressed alone, you can just have your loved one put on one piece of the outfit (such as a jacket) on his or her own. You can also try to limit the number of difficult situations your loved one must face. For example, if taking a bath or shower causes problems, have him or her take one every other day instead of every day. Also, you can schedule difficult activities for a time of day when your loved one tends to be less agitated. It’s helpful to give frequent reassurance and avoid contradicting him or her.
What should I do if hallucinations are a problem?
If hallucinations are not making your loved one scared or anxious, you don’t need to do anything. It’s better not to confront people who have dementia about their hallucinations. Arguing may just upset your loved one. However, if hallucinations are scary or upsetting to your loved one, you can try to distract the person by involving him or her in a pleasant activity.
What if my loved one will not go to sleep at night?
Try one or more of the following if your loved one is having trouble sleeping:
Try to make the person more aware of what time of day it is. Place clocks where he or she can see them.
Keep curtains or blinds open so that he or she can tell when it is daytime and when it is nighttime.
Limit the amount of caffeine he or she consumes.
Try to help your loved one get some exercise every day.
Don’t let him or her take too many naps during the day.
Make your loved one’s bedroom peaceful. It is easier to sleep in a quiet room.
At night, provide a night light or leave a dim light on. Total darkness can add to confusion.
If your loved one has arthritis or another painful condition that interrupts his or her sleep, ask your doctor if it is okay to give your loved one medicine for pain right before bed.
What if wandering becomes a problem?
Sometimes very simple things can help with this problem. It is all right for your loved one to wander in a safe place, such as in a fenced yard. By providing a safe place, you may avoid confrontation. If this doesn’t work, remind your loved one not to go out a certain door by placing a stop sign on it or putting a piece of furniture in front of it. A ribbon tied across a door can serve as a similar reminder. Hiding the doorknob by placing a strip of cloth over it may also be helpful. An alarm system will alert you that your loved one is trying to leave a certain area. Your alarm system may just be a few empty cans tied to a string on the doorknob. You might have to place special locks on the doors, but be aware that such locks might be dangerous if a house fire occurs. Don’t use this method if your loved one will be left home alone. Make sure your loved one wears a medical bracelet with his or her name, address and medical conditions, in case he or she does wander away from home.
Micha Shalev MHA CDP CDCM CADDCT is the owner of Dodge Park Rest Home and The Adult Day Club at Dodge
Park located at 101 Randolph Road in Worcester. He is a graduate of the National Council of Certified Dementia
Practitioners program, and well known speaker covering Alzheimer’s and Dementia training topics. The programs at
Dodge Park Rest Home specialized in providing care for individuals with dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. The
facility is holding a FREE monthly support group meeting on the 2nd Tuesday of each month for spouses and children
of individuals with dementia and/or Alzheimer’s disease.
Micha can be reached at 508-853-8180 or by e-mail at